Reclaiming Our Erotic Selves

In our society, many women live under a cloud of societal programming that dictates their sexuality as taboo. It’s ingrained in us from an early age that sex is a hush-hush subject, something to be whispered about, if mentioned at all. God forbid someone overhears a woman talking about sex; she’s often left feeling as though there’s something inherently wrong with her. This internalized shame convinces women that even accessing their sexual selves is sinful, possibly even damning them to hell for merely questioning their bodies.

From childhood, boys learn about their anatomy, while girls often don’t fully understand theirs until their first period—a traumatic experience marked by fear and a sense of something gross happening. This initial encounter with their own bodies sets the stage for a lifelong journey fraught with taboos, shame, and a subconscious feeling of societal rejection.

Women’s struggles with their bodies and sexuality begin early, woven into the very fabric of their being. Society subtly and not-so-subtly tells us that we’re not enough, that we’re not meant to thrive in the world as it is. Feminists have long fought against this oppression, seeking to reclaim their rightful place. However, the truth is nuanced; while society might not nurture women to the fullest extent of their magic, it is our responsibility to thrive and decide for ourselves that we are enough.

Sexuality has been mislabeled as dirty, taboo, or purely pornographic, something to be ashamed of. As an eroticism coach, I’ve often faced this misunderstanding firsthand. Men, upon hearing my profession, respond with lewd enthusiasm, completely missing the deeper, spiritual aspects of my work. They don’t understand that we’re on entirely different pages.

Women have been conditioned to accept the patriarchal and masculine definitions of sexuality, losing sight of the feminine essence. I am here to establish a feminine understanding, one that springs from intuition and divinity. In this light, I do not separate sexuality from spirituality—they are one and the same.

Understanding our sexuality is what makes us truly alive. Our eroticism is our life force energy, the driving force behind our existence. It encompasses our willingness, excitement, passion, and joy for life. This understanding broadens our perspective, allowing us to see eroticism as an integral part of our spiritual journey. It’s about following our pleasure, both sexual and soulful, for they are intertwined with our divinity.

Our life force energy animates us, bringing us to a state of blissful playfulness, where we can forget our worldly cares. It’s the feeling of butterflies and excitement for new adventures, the anticipation of new pleasures. It’s the complete bliss where all worries vanish, and we return to a childlike state of being in love with life, in flow with the universe, and in playful harmony with another person.

Eroticism is our fun energy, the energy of joy, bliss, and happiness. It is the essence of ecstasy, inseparable from the divine. Don’t let any religion tell you otherwise. We are created in the image of the source, embodying all its divinity, including our ecstasy.

The principle of cause and effect teaches us that following true ecstasy from a place of authenticity leads to feelings of lightness and happiness. When we embrace our true desires, free from obligation, over-sexualization, and misogyny, we feel brighter and more fulfilled.

However, popular culture has learned to diminish women, belittling their souls and shaming their sexuality. It numbs their desires and pushes them into the shadows, making them feel dirty for their natural urges. This is what we are rising above and reclaiming, casting off shame to embrace our sacred sensuality.

As we journey through this process of reclamation, we must remember that our sexuality is not something to hide or feel ashamed of. It is a vital, divine part of who we are. By reconnecting with our life force energy, we rediscover the joy and bliss that come with living authentically.

The path to embracing our eroticism is not easy, but it is essential. It requires us to confront deeply ingrained taboos and societal norms. Yet, in doing so, we reclaim our power, our joy, and our connection to the divine. We must stand firm in our understanding that our sexuality is a sacred, beautiful aspect of our being. By embracing it, we honor our true selves and our place in the universe